During the daily devotion yesterday, Pastey described the day he knew PL was his wife. He called it the day the scales fell off his eyes, even though they had been friends for four years. Wilder is the fact that she had known for years but kept it with herself.

As he was writing his spec for a woman, led by the Spirit, she walked in and fit perfectly into the list. That was the moment he saw her differently. Talk about kairos.

The story got me thinking as a single woman.

Do this.
Sign up for this dating app.
Here’s how your IG and TikTok profile should look.
Go out more.
Smile more.
Stop being too rigid.
Don’t make your husband a friend.

“What about that brother? Have you considered him?”
“You both look good together o.”“Why are you not dating?”

Women who are meant to be found have now turned hunters themselves.

But this story, and many other stories from married couples, seem to carry a similar pattern. My conclusion on this matter is simple: stop striving and rest in God’s promise over your life.

Until the scales fall off your husband’s eyes, you may just be wasting your time. If it is not your time, he will not see you. If he is not for you, God will make you invisible to him.

Alignment seems to be the common theme in many God-written love stories. So if there is anywhere to labor intensely, let it be in aligning your heart with the will of God.

Because how do you logically explain stories like these?

You followed a dance trend, posted it online, tagged the artiste, and years later, that artiste became your husband and the father of your child.

Or you commented on a post you would normally scroll past. He replied, it moved to the DMs, and today you are married with an intelligent son.

Or during an online church vigil announcement, something you usually do, he saw you, sent a compliment, and one year later you had moved across the country and married him.

These are real stories. We have them around us. And they should comfort us with the truth that God writes the best love stories.

When it is time, it will not elude you.

So while you wait, focus on alignment. Focus on purpose. Focus on becoming all God has called you to be.

Dear single woman and man, ma fo. Let not your heart be troubled. He makes everything beautiful in His time.

Maybe you do not need another strategy. Maybe you simply need rest and trust in the will of God.

May the scales fall off our husbands’ eyes.